Beating Myself Up

By | October 21, 2017

I hate not reaching my goals, and I hate outing myself about my failure to reach them. I hate making excuses, and I hate when people justify my short-comings for me.

I feel as broken as these eggs I accidentally dropped on the floor.

I feel as broken as these eggs I accidentally dropped on the floor.

I also hate to be a Debbie Downer, and so far I hate this blog entry, so let me check my attitude at the next period

{                            ~ deep ~ breath ~                            }


Okay, that’s better. 

Did you know I can’t accurately predict the future? That lack in my abilities has caused me some consternation this year as it relates to my goals.

Here’s what happened. I set my broad goals at the beginning of the year. And then, based on what I thought would happen in the next 12 months, I tried to come up with SMART sub-goals in order to help me reach my broad goals. 

Thing is, I was shooting in the dark with my sub-goals. I didn’t know exactly what I should set my sights on, so I picked a few things at random as temporary guideposts, and added some arbitrary deadlines. 

Then for the next three quarters during every quarterly review I did, I beat myself up because I couldn’t cross all the action items off my list.

Bruised and bloodied, I limped into the beginning of the fourth quarter, hating everything and feeling bad.

Everything looks dark and bleak

Everything looked dark and bleak

I couldn’t believe that this year had been a total dud, so I reexamined my failures and realized that I had made progress in every single area, just not the exact progress I had laid out for myself.

Turns out, I just had to look at it from a different angle.

Turns out, I just had to look at it from a different angle.

My Broad Goals:

  1. Grow my entrepreneurial business
  2. Deepen my connections with friends, family, and partner
  3. Look and feel physically healthy
  4. Pursue passion projects
  5. Travel often
  6. Invest in personal growth and development
  7. Make room for soul connection and self care
  8. Build up financial security

So far this year, I’m making regular money from real clients, spending time with people close to me, exercising, painting, writing, I’ve used up all my vacation time, have attended several conferences and workshops, spent time in nature, and have no outstanding debt.


I’m much farther along now than I was 10 months ago, and lucky me, I have more than 2 months to go to make even more progress!

Hangin' with my nieces, not something I get to do that often

Hangin’ with my nieces, not something I get to do that often, but something I got to do this year.

I reset my expectations, revised my goals (’cause what good is a goal you no longer want to achieve?), and came up with a new list of SMART things to pursue for the remainder of the year.

Goal-setting and writing with coffee. My fav.

Goal-setting and writing with coffee. My fav.

Goals for the last quarter:

  • Set up QuickBooks for my business
  • Use up my gift card at the Sports Center
  • Make $5,000 more by the end of the year
  • Host an event or workshop
  • Finish writing an ebook
  • Blog 1x/week, minimum
  • Send Christmas cards
  • One more trip
  • Pursue mural project 
  • Get a massage
  • Save $2,000
  • Donate money to a cause

There. I’m happy.

What do you want to accomplish by the end of the year? I’ll cheer for you!

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One thought on “Beating Myself Up

  1. Darlene

    Yessss a refresher! I heard on the radio at the beginning of October something like, “there are only 90 days left in the year of 2017. What will you be doing?” It really hit me that the weeks and months have just been flying by. A few of my goals are: get my first paying client as a Spanish coach, read I Will Teach You to be Rich and implement what I learn, and find myself a penpal who I can practice (and improve!) my French with. 😀


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