Why Do We Make Excuses?

By | November 17, 2016

It’s time for my annual, I’m busy writing my November Novel post, explaining that it’s too hard to blog consistently and work on my novel at the same time.

But man, I’m tired of excuses lately!

I think instead of excuses I need to make up my mind that the things I’m doing are what I want to be doing, and the things I’m not doing will have their time and place—later. Or never. But for sure not right now.

It’s good to do a mental clearing-out from time to time.

I live in a beautiful place. Why can't my mind feel this serene?

I live in a beautiful place. Why can’t my mind feel this serene?

I’ve felt like I’m letting myself down because I haven’t danced salsa in awhile or played volleyball in awhile. I haven’t plunked on my mandolin. I don’t touch my new (used) electronic keyboard. Even my coaching, which took off full steam when I did my soft launch this summer, has taken a little nap while I sort myself out. My blogging? Oh, you’ve noticed that it hasn’t just been a slow November for that? No posts for the past month!? Painting? Um, I did one in the past *coughfourmonths*cough.

The painting I did lately. What does this say about me? I don't know, either. Does the art have to be a reflection of the artist?

The painting I did lately. What does this say about me? I don’t know, either. Does the art have to be a reflection of the artist?

Things I love, not getting done.

What’s going on?

Here’s my Assessment

A person can only focus well on a small number of things at a time. Like two. When we try to do too many things at once, we have to make excuses for failing, and pretend our goal is just around the corner.

Why do we make excuses? They help us keep the illusion that we might actually accomplish something.

The better way to go is to prioritize our needs and do just a couple at a time.

I've taken to sniffing the things I can't have, trying to take in flavors through my nose. Now it's a habit and I can't stop sniffing everything, whether I can eat it or not. Like this basil.

Sniffing Basil

Right now my main focus is on my health. I’m boosting up my immune system to take care of myself, and that has taken up 80% of my energy. Doc says, no sugar, no refined carbs, no coffee, no alcohol. Some are definitely easier than others. Ha! But all together, when all that’s going through my mind is, “I can’t have anything,” I’m feeling the lack. And I’m digging deep for the drive to continue for another month.

I’ve taken to sniffing the things I can’t have, trying to take in flavors through my nose. Now it’s a habit and I can’t stop sniffing everything, whether I can eat it or not.

My secondary focus is my novel. Since it’s November, that is actually taking up more than the 20% of energy that I have left. Leaving room for what?

Right. Can you manufacture the additional percentage of energy you need out of thin air? Outlook not so good.

I’m antsy, because I really really want to work on my business. I have some exciting ideas for a slight shift from where I started this summer with my coaching. I’ve figured out my ideal audience, and my vision for how I can help them.

(Calling all writers who want accountability for their writing practices! Calling all authors who want better websites! Calling all self-publishers who don’t know how to format their manuscripts! Calling all non-marketers who still have to somehow market their books! I can help you!)

But I also realize I have to take my own advice. Slow down. Focus on one or two things at a time. No excuses. No more.
(Aren’t I a great coach? You should hire me!)

No reason for this pic in this post. Just wanted to share my Halloween pirate costume.

No reason for this pic in this post. Just wanted to share my Halloween pirate costume.

I can plan ahead and add to my list, but I can’t focus on everything at once. So I’m available to help now, but my advertising for this will have to wait another couple of weeks. My video ideas, my strategy lists, my in-person and online classes, my revamped website, oh! so many juicy new directions to explore!

Now excuse me while I disappear from the blog for the rest of the month. My novel is 5,000 words behind today’s goal and I’ve just spent 500 that don’t count, writing this blog entry.

Take care and see you soon.

Don’t mind if I stick my nose in your coffee cup for a couple free smells.


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