What you really need is a good friend—someone to talk to, without fear of judgment or comparison; someone who can empathize with you, give you advice, and be a sounding board for what you want to say to someone else.
As I write this, I just spent three hours talking to one of my best friends. A few days ago, I spent almost three hours talking to another of my best friends, and last week, spent another hour and a half talking to another best friend.
I’d forgotten how wonderful it is to have a good friend to talk to on a number of different topics.*
It’s even better to have several good friends who know you on multiple different levels, so you have someone to talk to about nearly everything! You also have someone (or several someones) to be completely goofy with.
What you really need is a good friend. Or several. But start with one.
If you don’t have one, now is the time to start building a friendship.
How do you start building a friendship?
- Start by smiling and saying, “Hi,” to someone you think you could get along with.
- Then add a really easy piece that is low pressure for both of you. Run into each other in the street and walk together toward destinations that are in the same direction. Have a short conversation that is more than just “Hi.”
- Exchange phone numbers. Send a text. Send an email. Be friends on Facebook and comment on something on their wall.
- Invite them for coffee, happy hour, or a meeting that is about something you have in common.
- Talk about relationships! (Works especially well for girls.)
It takes time, but everything good in life takes time. Work up to it.
Comment about the following:
Do you have a best friend? Several? Need a friend? How would you start building a friendship? Do you agree that a good friendship is crucial to living a good life?
As always, the most important thing to forming a solid friendship is remembering to Be unique, be authentic, and be yourself.
*Side note: When I was eleven years old and wrote a letter to myself at 18, I wrote in my letter that I wished for a “really truly best friend,” because at that point in my life I didn’t have one.
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