Time to Nix the “Texter” Pose

By | March 17, 2014

I won’t be one of those people who walks around while texting anymore.

You know the type—head down, elbows bend, hands clutching a glowing device, thumbs working steadily away, shuffling slowly along, completely unaware of what’s going on around them.

Maybe you are like that sometimes? I know I have been!

The classic "texter" pose. Who wants to look like this?

The classic “texter” pose. Who wants to look like this?

It’s time to change that.

Bo Eason, in his talk at Chalene Johnson’s Smart Success seminar* this past weekend,  brought home to me how wrong that is.

He talked about a tribe in Africa that lived in lion territory. The tribe had a remarkable track record of staying alive amid all that danger.

Bo says it was because they were hyper-aware of their surroundings. The lions left them alone because they, like the lions, walked like predators owning their territory. The few times tragedy struck were when a tribesman would go walking around drunk. The second he stopped being observant of his environment, he became a victim.

When you walk with purpose, paying attention to everyone and everything around you, other people take notice. They can’t take their eyes off of you. This sense of owning your space is what makes remarkable speakers and storytellers.

I want to be like that!

I’ve been trying to blend in. It wasn’t until I saw Bo with his powerful presence that I realized it’s a lingering habit from when I was in Armenia. While I was there, I stood out like a sore thumb, and I grew to hate it. So I did subconscious things to conform to those around me. I walked a little more slouched over. I stopped looking at people in the street. I buried my personality. I became more passive and submissive. I wore plain clothes.

I miss feeling confident!

After the workshop, I wrote a list of some of the times in my life when I’ve felt the most alive, challenged, excited, and free. Those times include: Dale Carnegie training when I had to give talks in front of a group of people every week; my improv comedy class where I had to be ridiculous in front of people; and forensics where I put on one- and two-person short skits for a small audience and group of judges.

Who knew I enjoyed the spotlight so much?

How did I forget?

Well now there’s going to be a change. It’s not going to happen all at once; I think it will take awhile to unlearn my hiding-in-the-corner persona. But I’m going to start walking into rooms like I own them, and watch people take notice!

You with me?


* P.S. I have a lot more interesting things to tell you about the Smart Success seminar, so check back Wednesday for a full review.

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